I know about that problem, unfortunately I can’t do anything about that. There are many modules that toggle button state, but their parameter values stay the same. This means the current button state is stored internally and is not exposed to Rack or any other modules.
An example for that is VCV Mutes and Bogaudio 8Mute. If you enable parameter tooltips and press the buttons you‘ll notice that in one module the buttons are toggled, in the other the parameter values of the buttons actually change. I guess when you map your controller to the Bogaudio module it will work as you would expect.